When you look into a mirror, what do you see? You see yourself right? The mirror reflects back what it sees. Very simple concept. Now, take that concept into all your interactions with others, and the interaction you have with yourself. People and situations will mirror back to you your thoughts, your emotions, and behavior/actions that you have taken.
Have you ever noticed certain behaviors in others that you do not like, and said to yourself, “I can’t stand when he/she does that”, or “It bothers me when he/she always puts me second?”
The lessons of mirroring is to take notice of how you feel when you interact with others, understanding what you see, and make the changes that are necessary for you to align yourself with your true self, your authentic self. Whatever the situation is trying to show you, a positive feeling or a negative one, it will reflect back to you what you are (your thoughts, emotions, and behavior/actions).
If you are sending out positive thoughts, if you feel good about yourself, and act with love, you will attract people and situations to you that reflect positive energy, inspiring people, and love. However, if your thoughts, emotions and behaviors/actions are on the negative side, you will then attract negative situations to you that reflect negative energy, pessimistic people and attitudes, and negative behavior.
Let’s take a look at a couple of examples of what I mean:
Let’s take the statement, “It bothers me when he/she always puts me second.”
What’s happening is you are attracting people to you that put you second to try to show you how you treat yourself. You are the one putting yourself second, and that’s exactly what the situation is trying to show you.
When someone belittles you, criticizes you, puts you down and it hurts you…
The situation is trying to show you that you are the one who puts yourself down and criticizes you. Without even knowing it, you must have some underlying beliefs that you keep telling yourself that you are no good, not good enough, you can’t do it, doubt yourself, feel unworthy. It’s those beliefs that are being reflected back.
When someone belittles you, criticizes you, and puts you down and it doesn’t affect you, you still feel okay within yourself, there is no need to make changes within, you are coming from a place of love and wholeness. It’s when the situations are negative, and it hurts or bothers you, then there are issues within yourself that need to be looked at for healing.
If it’s positive things you see in others, know that you are in alignment with your true nature, with the love within yourself.
If you see someone who you are envious of and wish you could be that way, which creates a negative feeling, the situation is trying to show you that you are already that way, but the negative feeling you feel is the doubt or negative belief that you are not that way. Once you change your belief, you change the way you see that person. You will no longer be envious, but happy for that person.
If you see someone who is rich, and you are envious of that person and wish you could be rich, again it is showing you that you are already rich, within yourself. If it’s material things that you are envious of, which can create negative emotions, it’s trying to show you that you are too attached to material things, and the material world. What you see first is the material aspect, instead of the fact that you don’t need the material things to make you rich. It’s your negative beliefs and self-doubt that creates being envious.
Situations with others will reflect back to you, your thoughts, beliefs, and what you can’t see within yourself.
Until you make the necessary changes within yourself, you will continue to attract the same kind of situation to you. It may or may not be the same people, but the kind of situation will be the same. It will be a repeated pattern, and feel like a never ending cycle.
Always look for the lesson(s) in situations, and realize, that even seemingly negative situations are not negative, there are great lessons to be learned. When you learn the lesson and finally “get it”, you should notice those types of situations will not occur anymore. There is no need.
It is very important to pay attention to what type of energy you put out there… because that’s the same type of energy you will get back. Pay attention to the patterns. If you see the same negative patterns that just repeat itself, and if it bothers you enough, there is a life lesson to be learned.
Each situation will try to show us something whether it be positive or negative, and it’s up to us to seek what our mirror is trying to show us.
Many blessings to you,
Dr. Laura R. Kiray, Msc.D.
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